Loving versus Enabling. This is a fine line when trying to support a loved one who is an addict. It feels innately wrong to not meet the needs of this individual.

John 13:34 says, A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.

The reality is that there is a difference between these two forms of support. As stated by James Hanson, “Remember, when you are just being supportive you are doing things for someone that they can’t do by themselves but when you’re enabling, you are doing things for people that they could and should do for themselves.”

Helping an addict can look very different based on the approach that you take. Consider instead of giving them money, helping them find a job. Rather than give them a meal, connect them to a local food bank. These are not only more sustainable measures, they encourage independence and normalcy.

There is no perfect formula for how to support an addict, particularly a loved one or family member. However, there is a balance to help them grow on their own without dwindling your financial and emotional resources.

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